Perspectives: body image
S.O.S.

July 1, 2006 Print version   

S ave O ur S ize Queens

I'm issuing an S.O.S. to Save Our Size Queens...
To the brothas like me - the thick or stocky or pudgy or FAT
We gotta press our collective weight into the ground and stand firmly in our visibility
It's too easy to pull a Ralph Ellison when you're not a size 33 in the gay community
So, it's invisible men that we may as well be - approaching obscurity,
as we walk through the club past a crew of gym rats who revel in the attention they receive...
But their fraternities of physical beauty resemble chickenheads looking for baller status kats

Hours of workouts to sculpt their form, but rarely their mind,
in an effort to pull the prettiest boy, or the hardest dime...
Slaves to an image that keeps the exclusive designers rich -
And it's those designers who exclude the pleasantly plump from their target audience...
Why is it always the exclusive who discriminate?
Because...a walking billboard of biceps & smooth skin & tweezed brows is more marketable than "Joe Average"...
It's the appeal of sex that creates a dude's sex appeal, and a tubby brother with cellulite hanging over his belt just ain't sexy...to THEM...

Therefore, you gotta jump on the workout bandwagon if you wanna be attractive...
Because it's only the beautiful ones who can pull a date, and then eventually, a lover
just to fill the void of our biggest fear: being alone
Admittedly, it's dubious whether, as a single gay brotha, you'll find a "soul mate"
but being a FAT single gay brotha will surely make you as attractive as roadkill...
The strikes against you add up with each acquired pound
which explains why we're the most image-conscious folx around;
But, the image-conscious becomes the body-conscious, and the body conscious begets the self-conscious...
We handicap ourselves by demanding less than what we deserve, just to avoid confrontation and ridicule

So, to all the fellow big boys who dig other boys, big and small, remember:
retreating into a voiceless mass of mass only makes us look as lazy as they stereotype
Grab your lovehandles, and handle yourself the way someone who loves you would
Cuz my man's phat azz complements his anatomy quite lovely
and he's got plenty of goodies for me to eat...